Breaking the Energy Bond


As children of abuse, we developed in our formative years an unhealthy emotional and energy bond with the person who abused us, unfortunately that may be a parent.  Then as adults, we develop these same connection in unhealthy relationships with others in our lives.  Some of these relationships can be abusive, but most are severe dependency and even addiction relationships.

In my circumstance, I was sexually abused by my father, then I engaged in unhealthy relationships with men who represented my father who were emotionally unavailable or involved with another; one was a lot older, and another was an authority figure in my life.  In each of these relationships, the emotional and energy connection with these men felt like intense love, and we bonded through sex.  During each of these relationships, I was unable to break free and let go.  Ironically in my situations, it was these men who left me.

We must be able to break free from these relationships.  As a Kundalini active person, I am fully aware of energy connections with others.  In order to break free from these relationships, we must break the energy bond with them.  Recently, someone I know shared a technique in coping with yearnings, longings, or sexual urges when they arise, and I added some of my own technique to break the energy bonds in these unhealthy relationships.

This is how it works.  1) When we first feel these feelings, allow it to surface, and do not suppress it. 2)  As it surfaces, identify what the feeling is without reacting to it.  3)  Begin to breath deeply and imagine moving this energy from our root chakra expelling it into the earth.  4) Instead of a sexual or romantic feeling, feel this as platonic or compassion love in our hearts. 5)  Stay with this love feeling until the yearnings, longings, or sexual urges passes. Repeat this as often as these feelings arise.

Good luck with your practice. I hope this helps you, and you don’t find my candor too explicit, but it is intended to help others overcome the same problems and issues.  Namaste. (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

Author: Journeyofawakening

Hi, I'm Brooke who will be taking you on a journey of spiritual awakening. I experienced a spiritual awakening in March 2011 when my consciousness was awakened, inspired, and transformed forever. I will serve as your guide on this journey, and hope you will join me!

20 thoughts on “Breaking the Energy Bond”

  1. Reblogged this on Blue Dragon Journal and commented:
    I for one appreciate your candor. I had such a relationship with my father and it wasn’t until I was in my 40’s that I was able to successfully cut the ties, forgive and live in compassion taking care of him until he passed away. Thank you very much for your efforts to understand these karmic relationships and the lessons they hold for each of us. Love, Elizabeth


    1. Thank you for your kind and loving comments and appreciation of my efforts to share my journey. I am happy to hear that you found resolution, forgiveness, and compassion with your father. We all strive to find this inner peace for ourselves all in good time. Blessings of love to you!


  2. I will try that. I’ve been still struggling with the longings & felt like I’d run out of ideas with how to cope. Thank you!


      1. It did work. I noticed its effect right away. I believe this is related to something I was trying to figure out before. I’ve read a lot online that Kundalini energy wants to go up, but there is a lesser discussed aspect that there is a down-current of energy too. When I went in for acupuncture once recently, the doctor told me I was out of balance and needed to bring the energy back down. I was resistant at first because I thought that was counter-productive to raising my Kundalini; but it’s not. We need the down-flow to stay grounded. The word grounded kept popping up for me recently, and now your technique here has confirmed it for me!


      2. Hi Rachel, I am so happy to hear that this technique worked for you! It is working for me too, and has allowed me to break the energy bond as well. I also coupled this technique with one I wrote about in my post “How I Surrender” to break free from old ties. It is truly freeing to move on in my life. Yeah!!!! Love to you!


  3. Great post. Although I do not share the abusive past, I am having great trouble breaking an energy bond with someone. I will most definitely try this the next time my feelings come up. TY!


      1. So, I used this technique all week and I think it really helped because I was able to set boundaries, and stand up for myself and my own well being with a certain person who, albeit was not vicious or out to hurt me, was really not good for me. I still have some work to do surrounding the energy that remains from our relationship but I was able to break ties this week and for that I am thankful! I will keep on using this technique. Thank you!


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