I recently returned from a trip to Los Angeles to see my family. I have not seen these family members in over 10 years, and I have changed so much. During each encounter with a family member, they are shocked at my transformation. They seem so different to me at well, as I have changed and see them through different lenses now.
I observed them now through a more objective lenses. I do not judge them, but just observe their behaviors and actions. In the past, I also felt slighted by their statements and comments. Now, I don’t really care what they think of me, as I am comfortable within my own skin, and no longer try to please them. I no longer feel slighted because my worth no longer is dependent on what others think of me.
One thing I did notice is that I am very different from them now. I no longer engage in drama, chaos, and people pleasing. The truth is that I don’t know if I have enough in common with them to want to engage in much interactions. The draw or attraction to drama, chaos, and dysfunctional behaviors have ceased for me.
When we heal ourselves, we outgrow our past and past negative behaviors. They are no longer of interest or attraction as we no longer vibrate at the same frequency as those who engage in negative behaviors. Believe it or not, the physical and emotional attraction no longer exist.
This is critically important as we cannot control this attraction to others, because it is at an energetic level. Like energy attracts like energy, and therefore, if you no longer want to attract emotionally wounded people with negative behaviors into your life, you must become healed and disengage in negative behaviors yourself. We attract what we are, not what we want. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)